Do Therapists Tell You What to Do?

As a Yoni masseur, I often guide clients through positions and movements to enhance their experience. Similarly, one might ask if therapists ever give instructions to their clients. Many do, and there's a nuanced approach to whether and how therapists should offer guidance.

Decision-Making and Client Autonomy

Many clients desire therapists to guide them, much like seeking a parent's direction. However, this approach can stifle a client's personal growth and ability to make decisions independently. As a therapist, my role is not to dictate actions but to facilitate the client's ability to make informed choices.

Empowering Client Autonomy

I lead my clients through a series of questions designed to teach them a decision-making process. This method is critical for long-term health and personal growth. By encouraging clients to take ownership of their decisions, I help open up new possibilities and choices.

For instance, my former therapist offered suggestions and insights but never imposed decisions. Together, we probed various aspects of my life, leading to a broader and more empowered perspective. In my experience, this process opens up options that were previously perceived as closed off.

Therapist Guidance and Crisis Management

The simple answer is that therapists rarely tell clients what to do. In the majority of cases, it is important for the client to own their decisions. However, there are exceptions, particularly in crisis management scenarios. In such situations, a client's system might be so disorganized that they need immediate, clear instructions to ensure their safety or guide them to the next steps.

Cautions and Considerations

While therapists must be careful about offering directives in crisis situations, excessive guidance can be detrimental. If a therapist tells you to do something that seems unwise, it's crucial to discuss it further. Getting a second opinion or seeking a new therapist is also a wise option. For instance, if a therapist instructs you to physically harm someone, this should be taken seriously and may warrant professional intervention. On the other hand, if a therapist encourages you to attend a party or social event, they likely have a valid reason and do not pose a danger.

Conclusion

Ultimately, the best therapists balance guidance and empowerment, ensuring clients have the skills and confidence to make their own decisions. If you ever feel that a therapist is guiding you excessively or inappropriately, it's important to voice your concerns and seek clarification. Trust your instincts and prioritize your well-being.