How Effective Are Neurodivergents at Spotting Other Neurodivergents?

Introduction – Identifying neurodivergent conditions in others is often easier for those who share similar experiences. However, this ability is not always based on any psychic ability, but rather on life experience.

Recognizing Neurodivergent Conditions through Experience

Neurodivergent individuals, such as those with ADHD or autism, often have a heightened awareness of their own neurodivergent traits. This heightened awareness can spill over into recognizing similar conditions in others. For instance, a person with ADHD may recognize some traits in others with ADHD, and a person who is autistic may recognize similar characteristics in others on the spectrum.

However, it is important to note that neurodivergent traits and conditions can also be recognized by non-neurodivergent individuals who have extensive experience with people who display these traits. For example, a person who is not neurodivergent but has had significant exposure to people with ADHD or autism may also be adept at spotting these conditions in others.

A Case Study

My adult son is autistic, and I am not, although I believe I share some sensory integration and ADHD traits. Even though I do not have a diagnosis, I have been able to recognize autistic individuals over the years. My experience as my son’s mother for 26 years has given me a deep understanding of the characteristics and behaviors associated with autism.

I also have other family members who are autistic, which has further contributed to my experience in recognizing neurodivergent traits. Additionally, since my son has epilepsy, I have also developed a good understanding of seizure disorders and have successfully recommended testing to parents whose children exhibited "odd" behaviors.

The Importance of Cautious Self-Diagnosis

It is essential to remember that self-diagnosis and armchair diagnosis can be misleading. While it is valid and helpful for some, it is not always accurate. We all engage in self-diagnosis to some extent, and we assume a certain condition or illness based on our symptoms or experiences.

For example, I have a strong inclination towards self-diagnosing ADHD or sensory integration disorder, but I carefully include the term "probably" in my assessments. This is because neurodivergent conditions, like all conditions, can often be misdiagnosed or misunderstood.

It is crucial to approach self-diagnosis with caution, especially when it comes to neurological conditions. I would never suggest to someone that they definitely have a neurodivergent condition, and I believe it is important for everyone to stay within their own area of expertise.

Medical Professionals and Self-Diagnosis

Neither medical professionals nor the general public should rely solely on self-diagnosis. Both need to be cautious and seek professional advice when necessary. It is important to recognize that even doctors and medical professionals can occasionally misdiagnose conditions, and only a professional can provide an accurate diagnosis.

In conclusion, while neurodivergent individuals can be effective at spotting other neurodivergents because of their life experience, it is crucial to approach this with caution. Awareness and understanding come from experience, not from any mysterious connection or psychic ability. It is always important to seek out professional advice for accurate diagnosis and treatment.