Navigating Sexual and Romantic Attraction: Understanding Bisexuality and Biromanticism

For many, understanding one's sexual and romantic orientation can be a complex yet rewarding journey. Until a few weeks ago, I identified as straight, but now I find myself physically attracted to girls with no sexual interest. This journey prompts questions: Does this mean I’m bisexual? Let's explore this fascinating realm and how to navigate it.

What Does 'Bisexual' Mean?

Well, only you can know who you are and how you feel. However, you might be biromantic, a term used by some people who experience romantic attraction but not necessarily sexual attraction to the same sex.

Anticipating your query, I understand the difference between physical and sexual attraction may not be clear. Physical attraction is often described by a strong sexual desire or intense feeling of aesthetic appeal.

Physical vs Sexual Attraction

Physical attraction and sexual attraction, as separate entities, exist on a spectrum. They are experienced differently by individuals and can fluctuate over time. As a bisexual woman, my own journey has shown that my attraction levels can vary:

Some days, I experience minimal attraction to women while feeling more towards men. Other days, my attraction to everyone feels equal. And sometimes, I show less interest in non-binary individuals, while being open to others.

This is because our sexuality is fluid and constantly fluctuates. Engaging in self-exploration and experimenting with different identities can help clarify where you stand.

Understanding Sexual Preference and Asexuality

Additionally, you might find yourself without any sexual interest at all. In this case, you might be asexual. Asexuality is a diverse and valid sexual orientation where one may not experience sexual attraction to others.

Alternatively, you might experience a combination of physical and romantic interest in multiple genders. It's important to remember that no one label has to fit you perfectly, and you have the freedom to explore and define your own identity.

Embrace Your True Self

There is no rush to box yourself in with a single label. Here are some pointers to consider:

Do you have a sexual preference for men? Do you simply have no sexual interest at all?

Discovering your unique path is essential. Here are some thoughts:

Read About Asexuality: Some people enjoy romance and intimacy without the need for sexual attraction, which aligns with your experience. Explore Your Desires: Follow your own desires, instincts, and what makes you happy. Avoid Labeling Pressure: Don't worry about finding a label; your identity is valid even without one.

Some people find labels like 'bisexual' or 'bi-curious' fitting, while others may identify as heterosexual or another orientation. The key is to be true to yourself and embrace unconditional love and acceptance.

Recalling a poignant moment, when working late, my friend Susie casually mentioned her missed girlfriend. My innocent query, “Oh, I didn’t know you were gay,” highlighted how we often question others' identities before fully accepting them. Just be you—no one can do it as well as you can.

Finally, embrace the journey and the fluidity of your identity. You are what you are, and it's okay to take the time to explore and understand your true self.