Non-Binary Pronouns and Neurodivergence: Debunking Misconceptions

The use of they/them pronouns, which are often associated with non-binary gender identities, can sometimes lead to misunderstanding and concern, particularly concerning conditions like dissociative identity disorder (DID). This article aims to dispel these misconceptions and highlight the reality behind the usage and implications.

Introduction

The debate over the use of they/them pronouns often brings up concerns related to individuals with multiple personality disorder or dissociative identity disorder (DID). However, it is important to understand that the use of such pronouns does not impact or invalidate the experiences of individuals with DID or any other neurodivergent conditions. This article explores these issues and provides insights from individuals with DID and non-binary identities.

Understanding They/Them Pronouns

The term they/them refers to a set of gender-neutral pronouns that can be used to describe a person or group of people whose gender is non-binary. These pronouns are widely recognized in the LGBTQ community and are becoming more mainstream, recognized by many organizations and individuals for diversity and inclusion.

One primary misconception is that the use of they/them pronouns is a violation of respect for individuals with DID. However, using they/them pronouns does not equate to invalidating the experiences of individuals with DID. This argument is based on a fundamental misunderstanding of both the pronouns and DID.

How Non-Binary Individuals View the Use of They/Them Pronouns

Many non-binary individuals and those with DID find they/them pronouns to be a source of comfort and validation. These pronouns provide a way for individuals to describe themselves without adhering to binary gender roles.

For instance, one non-binary individual wrote, I don’t see it as problematic! They/them can be used both singularly and pluraly! They/Them is just Pronouns after all! We can't dictate or control what people use as Pronouns because it makes them most happy and most comfortable with themselves. This perspective emphasizes the importance of personal comfort and happiness in the use of pronouns.

The Perspective of Systems with DID

Individuals with DID often prefer to avoid drawing attention to their condition, as it is a stealthy disorder. Another individual with DID explained, It’s kinda like being LGBT. None of anyone’s business unless I choose to share it. This perspective underscores the principle that individuals should have control over how and when they convey information about their neurodivergent conditions.

Clarifying the Usage of They/Them in Different Contexts

The usage of they/them in the context of DID and non-binary identities can differ. As one individual noted, In my case it’s they/them in a plural sense. In non-binary cases it’s used as gender neutral. Not the same thing. No need for jealousy or objections. This illustrates that there can be different ways of using they/them based on the individual’s specific experience and identity.

Conclusion

The use of they/them pronouns is not problematic for non-binary individuals and does not impact the experiences of individuals with DID. Instead, it is a tool that can provide validation and comfort to those who need it the most. Understanding and respecting the diversity of pronoun usage can contribute to a more inclusive and supportive society for all individuals.

Key Takeaways

They/Them pronouns are often used by non-binary individuals for personal comfort and validation. The usage of they/them in the context of DID is different from its use in non-binary identities. Respecting the personal choices of individuals in how they use pronouns is crucial.

Keywords: non-binary pronouns, neurodiversity, multiplicity