How to Start Rebuilding Your Life After a Long Period of Depression

Depression can leave a profound mark on your life, but it can also present an opportunity to start anew. Having overcome depression for 20 years, I've found that hitting rock bottom is not the end, but rather a chance to reinvent yourself. This journey can be broken down into manageable steps that can help you gain control and move forward. Here’s how I did it:

Reinventing Your Life in Three Major Areas

It’s important to address the three major areas of your life: health, wealth, and relationships. Let's explore these areas one by one:

1. Health

Your physical and mental health is the foundation upon which you can build your life. Start by evaluating where you stand in terms of health. Make a list of areas where you think you can improve, from diet and exercise to managing stress and sleep patterns. Set realistic goals for your health and work towards achieving them one step at a time. For example, you might start by committing to a 30-minute walk every day, then gradually increase the duration and intensity.

2. Wealth

Financial stability is crucial in regaining control over your life. Reflect on what you need to address in terms of wealth. Are you looking to start a business, pay off debt, or save for the future? Setting clear financial goals will help you stay motivated. It's important to prioritize what is most important to you. For example, saving for retirement might be more important than buying a new car or taking a vacation. Once you have identified your priorities, create a budget and a plan to achieve your financial goals.

3. Relationships

Your relationships with family, friends, and colleagues play a significant role in your overall well-being. Ask yourself what needs to be changed or improved in these areas. Write down what you think is wrong with each relationship, and then imagine what success in these relationships would look like. For instance, if your relationship with your spouse is strained, think about what steps you can take to improve it. Prioritize which relationships need the most attention first and start making changes. Remember, rebuilding relationships takes time and effort, but the rewards are immense.

Seeing Hope and Carrying the Cross of Present-Mindedness

Depression often shades our perspective, making it difficult to see the light. Finding hope can be the light that guides you through the darkness. Hope is not a man-made concept; it is a spiritual virtue that changes our attitude, outlook, and perspective. Here are some steps to help you start carrying the cross of the present-moment:

Identify the cross you are carrying. This might include past regrets, future anxieties, or current pressures. Recognize that you have the power to focus on the present moment and not get weighed down by what has happened or what might happen.

Carry only the cross of the current moment. Focus on today's challenges and opportunities. Accept that what was might be in the past and what will be remains uncertain. Simply focus on what is happening right now.

Engage in activities that bring you joy and fulfillment. Whether it's spending time with loved ones, pursuing a hobby, or volunteering, these activities can help alleviate the weight of depression.

Reflect on the spiritual aspects of hope, such as in Biblical teachings or other forms of spirituality. These can provide a powerful source of strength and comfort.

Depression can be a daily battle, but by focusing on the present moment and carrying the cross of today, you can find hope and begin to rebuild your life.

A Continuous Process of Building

Rebuilding your life after depression is a continuous process. There will always be challenges, but the key is to face them with resilience and determination. Remember, every day is a new opportunity to make positive changes.

Good luck on your journey towards a healthier, more fulfilling life!